How To Create Your Own Style – Live Confidently

Since the website is slowly starting to take shape, thought to pen down a new piece focusing on style. On my first article I mentioned style, but didn’t go much in detail as to what style is and where does it come from. Keep in mind, that you’re welcome to also shed some light on the subject with me and others. The comment section below is now open, where you can post your ideas and feedbacks.

Also, just so you know, I can be followed on Twitter, where I’ll be discussing these topics, sharing fashion ideas and as well as other subjects. Follow me here.

I also launched an Instagram account, which will give me the opportunity to post images relevant to the site’s content. If you’re on Instagram, follow me, and I’ll follow you back. You’ll notice that the profile is strictly open for the website. If you’re not on Instagram, I advise you sign up today. It was my first time, too. Still trying to figure it out.

Anyways, style—it’s a very broad term. Usually when we hear the term, we automatically think it’s just related to fashion. While in a way it does, but it is more than fashion. Style can’t just be having an expensive haircut or wearing an expensive suit with a watch on the wrist. All those things are very cool to have don’t get me wrong, but someone seeing you somewhere will only see what you’re on the surface with that attire. Style is not even when it comes to having the good-looks, actually.

We all, men, women, have heard from others either in person or on the television, oh, he is handsome or wow, look, how hot she is. I’ve heard of it, you have and in fact, we all have even said it when we were in high school and even when we first started going to college. I have. By all means.

True story: typing the word, college, it reminded me of that one time when I was standing with a few friends outside our class. A girl passed by us, who was in one of my classes. My back was towards her, so I had no clue she was there. Referring to her, I said, she was hot. She heard me, I think. I’m not sure if she liked it or not, but believe it or not, I was embarrassed. Back then, I believed that only someone’s looks matter. What made that girl attractive was because, yes, she was pretty, but also dressed very nicely. I liked the way she always chose her outfits. But all that was just on the surface. Now, don’t get me wrong, it is very possible that she had a very cool personality. I just didn’t get to find that out, because I never actually talked to her. Not necessarily due to the comment about her looks; we just didn’t get to interact with each other.

During my senior year and all the way to the college, I, too, focused on making sure that I was up-to-date with fashion. I shopped at Armani, Nordstrom, AE Outfitters, you name it. I was at the mall every other weekend. But, one thing I didn’t realize until I got out of the college and started working was that style isn’t just clothing. Style is more than what you have to wear or drive. Style is personality. It’s the way you talk, eat, walk, sit, stand, your behavior with friends, family, co-workers, children and animals. That’s why when it comes to style, it’s more than fashion. What would be the point of having a luxury car, but you don’t have style? It’s almost like having the best education, but no manners.

We all have flaws. No one’s perfect. However, we are masters at changing things around us, most importantly starting with ourselves. Man is capable of stepping on the moon; inventing cars; planes and building businesses. We are very much capable of changing our mannerism. It takes just that to get the number of that one beautiful girl at the party. Saying this, doesn’t mean I’m perfect. Far from it. But, I’m learning; observing and improving. Just because I’ve launched a men’s fashion blog doesn’t mean I’m impeccably dressed all the time. I’m what you call a chaser. A chaser of good things while I’m improving. And style is one of them. I think that’s how I can be charismatic. And you, too. There’s nothing that’s impossible for us to achieve. Alexander the Great conquered 90% of the world on horseback. We live in the 21st Century, my friend.

So, to create your own style, you have to change yourself. Slowly, one by one, get rid of all the unattractive flaws. If you’re going to bed late every night, it can be changed. If you’re dealing with an eating disorder, seek help. At the end of the day, you must become a new you. A new person. That’s the start of a new chapter. Once you’ve your own style, the fashion part of it is much easier. Achieving all that, we’ll be enhancing that elegant suit rather than letting it temporarily enhancing us.

Searching the term style online and how to come up with your own, you’ll probably come across many articles that will be focusing on the fashion aspect of it. Tonight, look into that mirror and let your mind go through everything unattractive you possess. You’re not the only one. Like I said, no one’s perfect. We all have those little ugly habits. Then, looking yourself in that mirror, make a list, get rid of them one at a time.

Remember, be yourself. There’s no pretending to be someone else. That’s cheap, easy and anyone can figure it out in a matter of a week (if you’re good at pretending) if not a day or two. Think about the idiom, life is short. It’s powerful. We must take advantage of the time that’s been given to us. If you incorporate that with all the changes you’re working on to be better you and become a new person, you’re creating your style. Everyone will want to be your friend. Men, women, all of them. They won’t be chasing you because you’re wearing a stylish suit, they’ll most likely be chasing you because of who you actually are. The person you have become.

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  1. Interesting post!
    I like how you talked about that we are masters at changing things around us because I do believe that we can all make significant changes in our lives.
    Coming up with your own style takes time and I definitely have changed my style significantly as I have gotten older.
    Thanks for a great post!

  2. Dear Yama
    Thank you very much for your fantastic website. It is amazing that you show men where to start and what steps to make towards their dream-like style. I hope more people will know about your website and follow your guidance.
    Kind regards,

  3. Hi, Yama.

    It’s interest articles and thanks for sharing this. I think it’s a great way of changing my boys’ lifestyle. I have 5 kids stay at home with me and maybe your articles will help.


    ~Sylvia Juchinta~

    1. Hi Sylvia,

      I’m glad you found the article to be useful. Please keep visiting as I’ll be adding more interesting pieces. And thank you for your comment. 🙂

  4. I’m not for fashion these the years have caught up with to shorts and T-shirts, But do bring out some nice points in fashion that I would of not thought about since years ago. If there was a fashion sense back then I would of try to follow. Great job on your site and wish you the best f luck

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